"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Field Report: Brazilian women refuse to talk instantly

EmotionalGeek

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Some time a go when I was in the bar I approached Brazilian woman (I suspect she was a student or was on a trip). I started talking to her in my language. She did not understand and asked to speak english. I started to speak english, a bit to fast so she asked me, after a while, to speak slower. I slowed down but she still strugled. Her friend appeared and said she would translate. After few sentences I wrapped my hand around girl's small of the back. I think talk was going well but after few minutes I started topic of carnival in Rio. I started it because I wanted her to elaborate on something familliar to her. I was ranting for a minute describing what I know about carnival and then I said about "half-naked womans" dancing on the street. At this moment girl that was translating got mad. She said that you do not speak about half-naked womans to Brazilian women in the club. I tried to say that it is just what I saw in TV and it is my perception of carnival but they left mad. Later I spoken with some other non-brazilian girl about situation and for her it seem normal for her. I used that to reapproach those girls and said that no one understand their rage. It did not help. They did not speak to me anymore.

I still do not understand what motivated their bahaviour but I think they overreacted. Do you have any thoughts on that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dingo

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Are you serious ?.... You don't see where you went wrong ?
 

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Some time a go when I was in the bar I approached Brazilian woman (I suspect she was a student or was on a trip). I started talking to her in my language. She did not understand and asked to speak english. I started to speak english, a bit to fast so she asked me, after a while, to speak slower. I slowed down but she still strugled. Her friend appeared and said she would translate. After few sentences I wrapped my hand around girl's small of the back. I think talk was going well but after few minutes I started topic of carnival in Rio. I started it because I wanted her to elaborate on something familliar to her. I was ranting for a minute describing what I know about carnival and then I said about "half-naked womans" dancing on the street. At this moment girl that was translating got mad. She said that you do not speak about half-naked womans to Brazilian women in the club. I tried to say that it is just what I saw in TV and it is my perception of carnival but they left mad. Later I spoken with some other non-brazilian girl about situation and for her it seem normal for her. I used that to reapproach those girls and said that no one understand their rage. It did not help. They did not speak to me anymore.

I still do not understand what motivated their bahaviour but I think they overreacted. Do you have any thoughts on that?
They had cultural differences and misunderstood, I wouldn't take it personally. When you are talking to girls or people in different cultures or languages keep your words pg.
 

EmotionalGeek

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They had cultural differences and misunderstood, I wouldn't take it personally. When you are talking to girls or people in different cultures or languages keep your words pg.
What do you mean by keeping my words pg? I do not understand what pg means.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you mean by keeping my words pg? I do not understand what pg means.
It's the movie rating system.

You know, G for general audience, PG for parental guidance, PG-13 no one under 13 should watch the movie without parental guidance, and R for restricted for adults.
 

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Its cuz all brazilians are known for is Ass, Soccer and Favela's so if u immediately talk to them about ass they will feel overly objectified. I suppose they wanted to talk about intellectual crap. Man fvck those bitches. Calibrate or stop caring indeed.
 

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one thing you need to undertand, if someone did leave Brazil for any reason, they are more likely have money and in so they don't like carnival (I sure don't too much waste the ****ing time), also you mentioning the carnival you jsut told then you are a stupid gringo who most likely are only talking with her becasue you find her easy, next time don't mention thing like this, ask her to tell you about her country, town or what she find strange on the palce she is visiting, you failed hard here so learn from it and do better next time
 
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