Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
had a question- how do you know when you are dealing with a female DJ- how do you know the girl you might be trying to play is in turn playing you as well?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
dj stands for don juan
IL stands for interest level
IL stands for interest level
Dukester
Master Don Juan
dont really think this is a tip- needs to be moved to the general forum...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dukester
Master Don Juan
damn that was quick nocturnal
Dukester
Master Don Juan
basically all those games that females try to play w/ us- that is their form of DJ'ing.
Our general subgoal: to get women, and too weed out the ones we dont want.
we do it by trial and error, or by trial (as I say).
they do it by playing games w/ us. those stupid tests, those ways to make us give them constant attention, etc...
all those little games, and tricks, and tests they play on us- nothing but female DJ'ing. IMO
Dukester
Master Don Juan
cloud-
clean out your mailbox, so i can send you that pm, and help you w/ your question, then pm me again when you have
clean out your mailbox, so i can send you that pm, and help you w/ your question, then pm me again when you have
Soma
Banned
Girls are natural DJ's. Every day they are IN the game as guys constantly hit on them.
How do you recognize a female DJ? If she's even remotely attractive she's got game.
How do you recognize a female DJ? If she's even remotely attractive she's got game.
Women have been learning the game since they were little girls. As budding DJs, I have just been learning the rules to play the game back. I not too sure but I figure the goal is to get beneath their game and find out if your interested in them as a person (after the physical attraction has been established of course). I think that's why AFCs have such trouble because the female DJ game weeds them out before they have a chance to find out whats beneath. They are so glad that a women is actually talking to them that they have no idea they are being played and tested. This is my amateur DJ opinion, let me know if I've been misguided.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Desdinova
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This is very true. However, some women will take it much farther. Go out and pick up the book "The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right". This book is a must for any DJ should they encounter a "Rules Girl"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
hmmmm...
i am a DJ when i am nonchalant. by not caring too much. when i am sure of myself, secure in my situation.
i am not a DJ when i care too much. when i am no longer sure, because instead of just caring about myself, someone else is very important to me. so therefor there is an instability, because you can't control another or what they might do. and then there is anxiety at times. AFCness. ugh.
i am a DJ when i am nonchalant. by not caring too much. when i am sure of myself, secure in my situation.
i am not a DJ when i care too much. when i am no longer sure, because instead of just caring about myself, someone else is very important to me. so therefor there is an instability, because you can't control another or what they might do. and then there is anxiety at times. AFCness. ugh.