Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
had a question- how do you know when you are dealing with a female DJ- how do you know the girl you might be trying to play is in turn playing you as well?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cloudtopsun2100
Senior Don Juan
dj stands for don juan
IL stands for interest level
IL stands for interest level
Dukester
Master Don Juan
dont really think this is a tip- needs to be moved to the general forum...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dukester
Master Don Juan
damn that was quick nocturnal
Dukester
Master Don Juan
basically all those games that females try to play w/ us- that is their form of DJ'ing.
Our general subgoal: to get women, and too weed out the ones we dont want.
we do it by trial and error, or by trial (as I say).
they do it by playing games w/ us. those stupid tests, those ways to make us give them constant attention, etc...
all those little games, and tricks, and tests they play on us- nothing but female DJ'ing. IMO
Dukester
Master Don Juan
cloud-
clean out your mailbox, so i can send you that pm, and help you w/ your question, then pm me again when you have
clean out your mailbox, so i can send you that pm, and help you w/ your question, then pm me again when you have
Soma
Banned
Girls are natural DJ's. Every day they are IN the game as guys constantly hit on them.
How do you recognize a female DJ? If she's even remotely attractive she's got game.
How do you recognize a female DJ? If she's even remotely attractive she's got game.
Women have been learning the game since they were little girls. As budding DJs, I have just been learning the rules to play the game back. I not too sure but I figure the goal is to get beneath their game and find out if your interested in them as a person (after the physical attraction has been established of course). I think that's why AFCs have such trouble because the female DJ game weeds them out before they have a chance to find out whats beneath. They are so glad that a women is actually talking to them that they have no idea they are being played and tested. This is my amateur DJ opinion, let me know if I've been misguided.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Desdinova
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This is very true. However, some women will take it much farther. Go out and pick up the book "The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right". This book is a must for any DJ should they encounter a "Rules Girl"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
hmmmm...
i am a DJ when i am nonchalant. by not caring too much. when i am sure of myself, secure in my situation.
i am not a DJ when i care too much. when i am no longer sure, because instead of just caring about myself, someone else is very important to me. so therefor there is an instability, because you can't control another or what they might do. and then there is anxiety at times. AFCness. ugh.
i am a DJ when i am nonchalant. by not caring too much. when i am sure of myself, secure in my situation.
i am not a DJ when i care too much. when i am no longer sure, because instead of just caring about myself, someone else is very important to me. so therefor there is an instability, because you can't control another or what they might do. and then there is anxiety at times. AFCness. ugh.