That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You mean if you are not a Chad it lowers your value. If you are Chad then it's shooting fish in a barrel as you clean house.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You got it
Plans to meet women, well.. I'm starting university next week. But the autumn term will be by distance because of corona so I'll only start seeing any girls in person in the spring, unless I run into any in the student accommodation I'll move into. But I don't expect to meet anyone in university, or outside of it after I'm done, and won't make any concerted attempts to. I accept that my fate is just not configured that way, and instead I want to just focus on what I'm naturally meant to do... as the principles of Daoism describe.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
How has it helped you develop?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nah, crazy b1tch keeps talking about moving in together!
Putting up a profile on a dating site is making an effort. Clearly this has not worked for the OP as he said he made this effort. You don't quit something when there is no effort as there would be nothing to quit from.
Then why isn't he getting traction online and wants to quit?TYTEEYEZ said:
I was responding to him because he's my friend. If he had the nuts to talk to girls he would be getting pvssy left and right.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.