That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You mean if you are not a Chad it lowers your value. If you are Chad then it's shooting fish in a barrel as you clean house.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You got it
Plans to meet women, well.. I'm starting university next week. But the autumn term will be by distance because of corona so I'll only start seeing any girls in person in the spring, unless I run into any in the student accommodation I'll move into. But I don't expect to meet anyone in university, or outside of it after I'm done, and won't make any concerted attempts to. I accept that my fate is just not configured that way, and instead I want to just focus on what I'm naturally meant to do... as the principles of Daoism describe.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
How has it helped you develop?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nah, crazy b1tch keeps talking about moving in together!
Putting up a profile on a dating site is making an effort. Clearly this has not worked for the OP as he said he made this effort. You don't quit something when there is no effort as there would be nothing to quit from.
Then why isn't he getting traction online and wants to quit?TYTEEYEZ said:
I was responding to him because he's my friend. If he had the nuts to talk to girls he would be getting pvssy left and right.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.