When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You mean if you are not a Chad it lowers your value. If you are Chad then it's shooting fish in a barrel as you clean house.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You got it
Plans to meet women, well.. I'm starting university next week. But the autumn term will be by distance because of corona so I'll only start seeing any girls in person in the spring, unless I run into any in the student accommodation I'll move into. But I don't expect to meet anyone in university, or outside of it after I'm done, and won't make any concerted attempts to. I accept that my fate is just not configured that way, and instead I want to just focus on what I'm naturally meant to do... as the principles of Daoism describe.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
How has it helped you develop?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nah, crazy b1tch keeps talking about moving in together!
Putting up a profile on a dating site is making an effort. Clearly this has not worked for the OP as he said he made this effort. You don't quit something when there is no effort as there would be nothing to quit from.
Then why isn't he getting traction online and wants to quit?TYTEEYEZ said:
I was responding to him because he's my friend. If he had the nuts to talk to girls he would be getting pvssy left and right.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.