Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You mean if you are not a Chad it lowers your value. If you are Chad then it's shooting fish in a barrel as you clean house.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You got it
Plans to meet women, well.. I'm starting university next week. But the autumn term will be by distance because of corona so I'll only start seeing any girls in person in the spring, unless I run into any in the student accommodation I'll move into. But I don't expect to meet anyone in university, or outside of it after I'm done, and won't make any concerted attempts to. I accept that my fate is just not configured that way, and instead I want to just focus on what I'm naturally meant to do... as the principles of Daoism describe.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
How has it helped you develop?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nah, crazy b1tch keeps talking about moving in together!
Putting up a profile on a dating site is making an effort. Clearly this has not worked for the OP as he said he made this effort. You don't quit something when there is no effort as there would be nothing to quit from.
Then why isn't he getting traction online and wants to quit?TYTEEYEZ said:
I was responding to him because he's my friend. If he had the nuts to talk to girls he would be getting pvssy left and right.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.