Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You mean if you are not a Chad it lowers your value. If you are Chad then it's shooting fish in a barrel as you clean house.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You got it
Plans to meet women, well.. I'm starting university next week. But the autumn term will be by distance because of corona so I'll only start seeing any girls in person in the spring, unless I run into any in the student accommodation I'll move into. But I don't expect to meet anyone in university, or outside of it after I'm done, and won't make any concerted attempts to. I accept that my fate is just not configured that way, and instead I want to just focus on what I'm naturally meant to do... as the principles of Daoism describe.As a man, online dating lowers your value. Forget about that gay mess. You're right to give it up.
But I hope this doesn't mean you're gay now. I mean, you were already kinda gay, but now...
Do you have any plans to meet women? I guess you could always meet them in person
How has it helped you develop?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nah, crazy b1tch keeps talking about moving in together!
Putting up a profile on a dating site is making an effort. Clearly this has not worked for the OP as he said he made this effort. You don't quit something when there is no effort as there would be nothing to quit from.
Then why isn't he getting traction online and wants to quit?TYTEEYEZ said:
I was responding to him because he's my friend. If he had the nuts to talk to girls he would be getting pvssy left and right.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.