Da Realist
Master Don Juan
She's a little chubby, but not fat.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think that's harsh but up to you. I won't call a fattie 'curvy' though, so if it bothers her then she has to fix the problem. Lack of respect? Not here, people have the right and privilege of doing as they wish and categorically saying this or that group is not due respect is generally foolish.immrtlwun said:.... my lack of respect for fat people.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm not completely put off by body 'type' or whatever, the deal-breaker for the one on the left is that she's basically ugly. Her friend is fat too, but seems cute. I wouldn't waste (spend, whatever) much effort but if the friend fell into my lap I would provide ... services.Corona said:They're both fat, but i'd probably bang the sunglasses one
I don't mind thick girls either, but lefty is right about at the limit of what I find attractive. Doesn't help that she's kind of got a beat-up face, but maybe it's just a bad pic.bigjohnson said:I'm not completely put off by body 'type' or whatever, the deal-breaker for the one on the left is that she's basically ugly. Her friend is fat too, but seems cute. I wouldn't waste (spend, whatever) much effort but if the friend fell into my lap I would provide ... services.
Da Realist said:She's a little chubby, but not fat.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Haha Slickaz you make me chuckle, you're the guy who created 'J holiday her' in some other thread aren't you?unlike diddy..IM GUILTY!!