Da Realist
Master Don Juan
She's a little chubby, but not fat.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I think that's harsh but up to you. I won't call a fattie 'curvy' though, so if it bothers her then she has to fix the problem. Lack of respect? Not here, people have the right and privilege of doing as they wish and categorically saying this or that group is not due respect is generally foolish.immrtlwun said:.... my lack of respect for fat people.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm not completely put off by body 'type' or whatever, the deal-breaker for the one on the left is that she's basically ugly. Her friend is fat too, but seems cute. I wouldn't waste (spend, whatever) much effort but if the friend fell into my lap I would provide ... services.Corona said:They're both fat, but i'd probably bang the sunglasses one
I don't mind thick girls either, but lefty is right about at the limit of what I find attractive. Doesn't help that she's kind of got a beat-up face, but maybe it's just a bad pic.bigjohnson said:I'm not completely put off by body 'type' or whatever, the deal-breaker for the one on the left is that she's basically ugly. Her friend is fat too, but seems cute. I wouldn't waste (spend, whatever) much effort but if the friend fell into my lap I would provide ... services.
Da Realist said:She's a little chubby, but not fat.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Haha Slickaz you make me chuckle, you're the guy who created 'J holiday her' in some other thread aren't you?unlike diddy..IM GUILTY!!