Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Use it like a tool, along with your charm, looks, education, style and networking skills.franchise21 said:ok, being in high school you always get tied into these social networking sites like facebook...I was just wondering how DJ's use this to their advantage and how you can misuse this....
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Grand Wizzard Alamar said:A huge point to DJing is to lose the need for online help.
If you use online dating or myspace/facebook you are have no balls or confidence to step into the field and you're too lazy to get out and beat up some competition to score your action.
Even if you score big online, you're still an AFC for portraying your personality through black letters instead of feelings, articulation and reality.
A busy, catch-worthy man stays offline as much as possible because he is out doing better things than going to myspace just to get some girls.
So wouldn't you rather be doing something fun than wasting your time looking for the hottest girl on facebook, whom you only have a >1% chance of fvcking?