You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Use it like a tool, along with your charm, looks, education, style and networking skills.franchise21 said:ok, being in high school you always get tied into these social networking sites like facebook...I was just wondering how DJ's use this to their advantage and how you can misuse this....
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Grand Wizzard Alamar said:A huge point to DJing is to lose the need for online help.
If you use online dating or myspace/facebook you are have no balls or confidence to step into the field and you're too lazy to get out and beat up some competition to score your action.
Even if you score big online, you're still an AFC for portraying your personality through black letters instead of feelings, articulation and reality.
A busy, catch-worthy man stays offline as much as possible because he is out doing better things than going to myspace just to get some girls.
So wouldn't you rather be doing something fun than wasting your time looking for the hottest girl on facebook, whom you only have a >1% chance of fvcking?