You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Use it like a tool, along with your charm, looks, education, style and networking skills.franchise21 said:ok, being in high school you always get tied into these social networking sites like facebook...I was just wondering how DJ's use this to their advantage and how you can misuse this....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Grand Wizzard Alamar said:A huge point to DJing is to lose the need for online help.
If you use online dating or myspace/facebook you are have no balls or confidence to step into the field and you're too lazy to get out and beat up some competition to score your action.
Even if you score big online, you're still an AFC for portraying your personality through black letters instead of feelings, articulation and reality.
A busy, catch-worthy man stays offline as much as possible because he is out doing better things than going to myspace just to get some girls.
So wouldn't you rather be doing something fun than wasting your time looking for the hottest girl on facebook, whom you only have a >1% chance of fvcking?