"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Excuses for "not interested"

Solomon

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Here are some weird or odd excuses I've heard

"I got too drunk last night and I don't feel well" (Mind you our date was at 8pm and she send that message at 1pm on a Sunday,)

"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)

"My mother is in the hospital"

"My grandmother is in the hospital"

"I'm on my period"

One thing I've learned over the years is the more outlandish the reason no amount of logic, witty response, clapback etc will help you, it's better to delete and block the number and move on. I know the forum has the "Text her a week later b.s." but that never worked for me (maybe 1% of the time) you're better off finding new options or calling a backup plate if you have one.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BaronOfHair

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I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
Definitely a more comforting thought than: "I have that effect on people. Be it women I'm pursuing or my own shrink, who was hanging by his neck from a ceiling fan, when I walked into his office for my appointment this morning o_O :confused:;) "
 
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"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)
In this day and age where people are feeling unhappier, loneliner, and longing for real human interaction more than ever, I have a really (seriously) hard time believing a woman in her 20s would pick cleaning with her mother (cleaning!) over a sensual, stimulating date with a new man that could result in a nice evening, amazing fulfilling sex, and possibly even a relationship. She must really have been extremely uninterested for whatever reason since picking cleaning over a date (of course she didn't, but young women think men are stupid).

I'm never dating a woman in her 20s again.
 

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It's a good way to weed out the undesirables.
True, I still highly doubt that the poster whose situation I mentioned (Solomon) is an undesirable in the eyes of a 28 year old woman, I mean he still got into contact with her in the first place.

Either she lost interest for an ocean of ridiculous reasons inside her head (typical for young women) or maybe she got curious for someone else as she probably have at least 10 other men texting her wanting to hook up as well.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I wouldn't be interested in a woman who isn't interested in me.
 

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Here are some weird or odd excuses I've heard

"I got too drunk last night and I don't feel well" (Mind you our date was at 8pm and she send that message at 1pm on a Sunday,)

"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)

"My mother is in the hospital"

"My grandmother is in the hospital"

"I'm on my period"

One thing I've learned over the years is the more outlandish the reason no amount of logic, witty response, clapback etc will help you, it's better to delete and block the number and move on. I know the forum has the "Text her a week later b.s." but that never worked for me (maybe 1% of the time) you're better off finding new options or calling a backup plate if you have one.
Send a pic of you out with another woman, or a video of you and another woman having fun and kissing. Women seem to not respond to date requests but do respond to men who can get other women (preselection). It also helps if you post yourself on social media with other hot chicks.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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anonymous12345

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In this day and age where people are feeling unhappier, loneliner, and longing for real human interaction more than ever, I have a really (seriously) hard time believing a woman in her 20s would pick cleaning with her mother (cleaning!) over a sensual, stimulating date with a new man that could result in a nice evening, amazing fulfilling sex, and possibly even a relationship. She must really have been extremely uninterested for whatever reason since picking cleaning over a date (of course she didn't, but young women think men are stupid).
Yeah, from my perspective too it's odd. It's as if they follow a set path and aren't curious, open for suggestions. I approach a lot of "good girls", and it's as if they can't see an alternative universe.

Another possible reason is to dial down one's perception of how attractive one is, a more attractive guy might suceeed.
 
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