"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Excuses for "not interested"

Solomon

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Here are some weird or odd excuses I've heard

"I got too drunk last night and I don't feel well" (Mind you our date was at 8pm and she send that message at 1pm on a Sunday,)

"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)

"My mother is in the hospital"

"My grandmother is in the hospital"

"I'm on my period"

One thing I've learned over the years is the more outlandish the reason no amount of logic, witty response, clapback etc will help you, it's better to delete and block the number and move on. I know the forum has the "Text her a week later b.s." but that never worked for me (maybe 1% of the time) you're better off finding new options or calling a backup plate if you have one.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BaronOfHair

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I wouldn't be surprise if a lot of that excuse were true....lots of girls on that med today
Definitely a more comforting thought than: "I have that effect on people. Be it women I'm pursuing or my own shrink, who was hanging by his neck from a ceiling fan, when I walked into his office for my appointment this morning o_O :confused:;) "
 
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"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)
In this day and age where people are feeling unhappier, loneliner, and longing for real human interaction more than ever, I have a really (seriously) hard time believing a woman in her 20s would pick cleaning with her mother (cleaning!) over a sensual, stimulating date with a new man that could result in a nice evening, amazing fulfilling sex, and possibly even a relationship. She must really have been extremely uninterested for whatever reason since picking cleaning over a date (of course she didn't, but young women think men are stupid).

I'm never dating a woman in her 20s again.
 

Lean Baby Face

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It's a good way to weed out the undesirables.
True, I still highly doubt that the poster whose situation I mentioned (Solomon) is an undesirable in the eyes of a 28 year old woman, I mean he still got into contact with her in the first place.

Either she lost interest for an ocean of ridiculous reasons inside her head (typical for young women) or maybe she got curious for someone else as she probably have at least 10 other men texting her wanting to hook up as well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Plinco

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I wouldn't be interested in a woman who isn't interested in me.
 

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Here are some weird or odd excuses I've heard

"I got too drunk last night and I don't feel well" (Mind you our date was at 8pm and she send that message at 1pm on a Sunday,)

"My mother wants me to help her clean" (this was from a 28 year old woman, 2 years ago)

"My mother is in the hospital"

"My grandmother is in the hospital"

"I'm on my period"

One thing I've learned over the years is the more outlandish the reason no amount of logic, witty response, clapback etc will help you, it's better to delete and block the number and move on. I know the forum has the "Text her a week later b.s." but that never worked for me (maybe 1% of the time) you're better off finding new options or calling a backup plate if you have one.
Send a pic of you out with another woman, or a video of you and another woman having fun and kissing. Women seem to not respond to date requests but do respond to men who can get other women (preselection). It also helps if you post yourself on social media with other hot chicks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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anonymous12345

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In this day and age where people are feeling unhappier, loneliner, and longing for real human interaction more than ever, I have a really (seriously) hard time believing a woman in her 20s would pick cleaning with her mother (cleaning!) over a sensual, stimulating date with a new man that could result in a nice evening, amazing fulfilling sex, and possibly even a relationship. She must really have been extremely uninterested for whatever reason since picking cleaning over a date (of course she didn't, but young women think men are stupid).
Yeah, from my perspective too it's odd. It's as if they follow a set path and aren't curious, open for suggestions. I approach a lot of "good girls", and it's as if they can't see an alternative universe.

Another possible reason is to dial down one's perception of how attractive one is, a more attractive guy might suceeed.
 
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