"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ex-girlfriend experiment

Plinco

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Hello folks, I am new here

well, here is a story, I broke up with this girl three years ago, then she starts calling me. We start talking, and somewhere down the line I figured it should be easy to get back with her. I start flirting with her, and then she gives me this LBF thing. I took this for about two days, then I went over to her house I talked to her honestly about our relationship and where I wanted it to go, and said that I would be friends, (but I implied distant, if that was all she wanted), and then left her alone for a while to see if she would call me (hoping that she would realize her feelings for me if she had time to think about it). I did not talk to her for three weeks, and then today I called her I told her that I wanted to talk to her in person. I meet her, gave her this 9/11 truth video (that's what I am into) and then left. An hour later, I had set up a date with her.

Now, in all honesty, I don't think this will work exactly the way I want it to. That is no big deal for me because she is not the only one that I am currently after. It should be noted that she is either really good as reverse psychology, or she does not have good self esteem, because she has tried to dump her problems on me, and she does so in a way that occasionally I fall into that trap without realizing it. I also think she is a little messed up in the head.

At this point, I don't care if I actually do get back with here or not. This whole thing is taking up more time and effort than I think is worth, and like I said before, I have other women I am seeking after as of now.

There is of course more to this than what I have written, but for now this is what I believe is relevant. I'll post more if more information is needed.

But for fun, what could I try? This will be like an experiment for me. I'll try a few things if it suits me. I'll report back on the results.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It sounds to me like you dont really want to be with her. If you don't, don't try to confuse her so she will get hurt, spend your time on girls you actually like.
 

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Leave the past in the past. If anything, if you run into her show her that you don't need her at all and have moved on. This will IMMEDIATELY increase her attraction for you. But there's no point because you sound like she isn't even worth the effort.
 

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She's an ex for a reason. Focus your energy on something else that could turn out to be positive instead of another negative.
 

Plinco

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To clarify, I do want to be with her, but I am not going to be dumb about it either. She is an awesome person, and I really think we have long term potential. It was a matter of fate that it did not work out the first time. I do care about her, but I personally do not think I will actually succeed.

So you guys are saying that I should not try anyway?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Plinco

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Okay, so I suppose this means that the verdict stands. I guess this means I'll invite her parent there as well, and then maybe we will talk about the economy or something. This will hurt me emotionally though.
 
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