"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this thread is dedictaed to the guy who were involved with girls/women who have had BPD and even Bi polar disorder.

My head feels like its decrompressing , no more planning to be tactical with her and her motives, battling my own illusion wich she had adopted to win me over the list goes on.

post up here survivers.

mine was age 21 when we met
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Get over yourself. You went through something dramatic but guess what? Probably most us have gone through something like this. Move forward and don't back track. Quit making threads about it because that is only making you think of it more.
 
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true

feels good to be set free, the mind that is....
 
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major recoil going on in my head right now
 
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You have 7 threads on the first page of this forum.

Seven threads about the same girl.

I'm starting to think that you're the BPD and the girl is the normal one for getting rid of you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Iceberg said:
You have 7 threads on the first page of this forum.

Seven threads about the same girl.

I'm starting to think that you're the BPD and the girl is the normal one for getting rid of you.
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+1. Is this Georgie guy trolling?
 
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Iceberg said:
You have 7 threads on the first page of this forum.

Seven threads about the same girl.

I'm starting to think that you're the BPD and the girl is the normal one for getting rid of you.
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:kick:

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

Seriously dude, he's right....cut out all the threads about this one girl and move on. Stop thinking about it!
 
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Iceberg said:
I'm starting to think that you're the BPD and the girl is the normal one for getting rid of you.
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I agree with the first part.

When you are with a BPD for the long haul they end up infecting you with their craziness so when they happily dump you for another sucker, you are the one that is going to remain with their depression, anxiety and mood swings.

After playing a therapist for that girl you may need one yourself.
 
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DJDamage said:
I agree with the first part.

When you are with a BPD for the long haul they end up infecting you with their craziness so when they happily dump you for another sucker, you are the one that is going to remain with their depression, anxiety and mood swings.

After playing a therapist for that girl you may need one yourself.
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cant object or disagree with that.

Mods please close all current threads please.

My first one set this course so i have some inner work to do, and working with a professional i have no shame in.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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