"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ex Contacted Me, Should I Igonre her?

soulforge

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ignore. Interesting timing as I also had an ex reach out to me in a voicemail (I didn't pick up) where she was crying the whole time. I'm going to ignore. I'm at a point in my life where I am able to remember the bad parts clearly instead of romanticizing the good parts.

It's a new day. Ignore her.
 

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…
 

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Stick to how you felt before when you decided you were done with her. You've been fine for 6 months
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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EyeOnThePrize

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If you have to ask then you should ignore.
 

mrgoodstuff

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If shes not trying to fvck next her
 

soulforge

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You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…

I like this answer.. The sex is tempting, however probably note wise to invite back this level of low quality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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soulforge

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You really need to ask? Re-read the red flags

She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
 

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She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
It can be "fun" as long as your not too involved. It's an adult decision up to you.
 

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What did she say when she contacted you? Was it through text?
 
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