"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ex Contacted Me, Should I Igonre her?

soulforge

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ignore. Interesting timing as I also had an ex reach out to me in a voicemail (I didn't pick up) where she was crying the whole time. I'm going to ignore. I'm at a point in my life where I am able to remember the bad parts clearly instead of romanticizing the good parts.

It's a new day. Ignore her.
 

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…
 

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Stick to how you felt before when you decided you were done with her. You've been fine for 6 months
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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EyeOnThePrize

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If you have to ask then you should ignore.
 

mrgoodstuff

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If shes not trying to fvck next her
 

soulforge

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You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…

I like this answer.. The sex is tempting, however probably note wise to invite back this level of low quality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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soulforge

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You really need to ask? Re-read the red flags

She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
 

mrgoodstuff

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She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
It can be "fun" as long as your not too involved. It's an adult decision up to you.
 

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What did she say when she contacted you? Was it through text?
 
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