"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ex Contacted Me, Should I Igonre her?

soulforge

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ignore. Interesting timing as I also had an ex reach out to me in a voicemail (I didn't pick up) where she was crying the whole time. I'm going to ignore. I'm at a point in my life where I am able to remember the bad parts clearly instead of romanticizing the good parts.

It's a new day. Ignore her.
 

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…
 

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Stick to how you felt before when you decided you were done with her. You've been fine for 6 months
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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EyeOnThePrize

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If you have to ask then you should ignore.
 

mrgoodstuff

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If shes not trying to fvck next her
 

soulforge

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You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…

I like this answer.. The sex is tempting, however probably note wise to invite back this level of low quality.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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soulforge

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You really need to ask? Re-read the red flags

She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
 

mrgoodstuff

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She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
It can be "fun" as long as your not too involved. It's an adult decision up to you.
 

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What did she say when she contacted you? Was it through text?
 
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