"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ex Contacted Me, Should I Igonre her?

soulforge

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ignore. Interesting timing as I also had an ex reach out to me in a voicemail (I didn't pick up) where she was crying the whole time. I'm going to ignore. I'm at a point in my life where I am able to remember the bad parts clearly instead of romanticizing the good parts.

It's a new day. Ignore her.
 

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…
 

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Stick to how you felt before when you decided you were done with her. You've been fine for 6 months
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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EyeOnThePrize

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If you have to ask then you should ignore.
 

mrgoodstuff

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So I dumped her around 6 months ago!

Simply because the red flags was too many!

She has a history of nude modelling.
Has been involved in pornography.
Has done stripping.
And was sexualy abused as a child.

She is also occasional Cocaine User?

Do I ignore? Or try to smash her?
Strong possibility that she is BDP
Anyway I got a text from her today.

I think.she wants to fuk?
If shes not trying to fvck next her
 

soulforge

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You list 5 Red flags plus one possible that’s too large to ignore. Now you’re asking us if you should reply for the quick fuk.
Decide if you want quality people in your life or you want to plow a dirt road…

I like this answer.. The sex is tempting, however probably note wise to invite back this level of low quality.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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soulforge

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You really need to ask? Re-read the red flags

She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
 

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She did most of that in her past... Other than the current cocaine use.

However it's a sea of red flags. I would have only banged and ran.

But decided to simply ignore
It can be "fun" as long as your not too involved. It's an adult decision up to you.
 

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What did she say when she contacted you? Was it through text?
 
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