"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Everytime I Do A Cold Approach...

dadmonson

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I feel like a bum asking for 5 dollars to support my drug habit. Anybody else feel this way or has felt this way? Will this feeling go away the more I cold approach?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NobodyCares1

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dadmonson said:
I feel like a bum asking for 5 dollars to support my drug habit. Anybody else feel this way or has felt this way? Will this feeling go away the more I cold approach?
I do feel a bit nervous when doing cold approach but I never feel like that. I just want to chat and meet new people that's all, nothing wrong or weird about that and that's the mindset you should have. You don't approach her because you want or even worse need something from her, you do it for fun, you do it to show her a good time, you're the giver not her.
 

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Think this says more about what you feel your self worth is than the cold approach. You don't feel like you are good enough to get these women, hence you probably don't.
 

dadmonson

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NobodyCares1 said:
I do feel a bit nervous when doing cold approach but I never feel like that. I just want to chat and meet new people that's all, nothing wrong or weird about that and that's the mindset you should have. You don't approach her because you want or even worse need something from her, you do it for fun, you do it to show her a good time, you're the giver not her.
You got it. This is the mindset you need to have.

marmel75 said:
Think this says more about what you feel your self worth is than the cold approach. You don't feel like you are good enough to get these women, hence you probably don't.
I guess I don't really feel the way I describe in my original post. It is just that they treat me that way. It's like the girls don't want to be bothered. They always seem like they are pressing for time and try to distance themselves from me.
 

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in cold approch you have to be social person , and have a good look , unsocial guys usually fail to start a conversation without being weird
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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