"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Everytime I Do A Cold Approach...

dadmonson

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I feel like a bum asking for 5 dollars to support my drug habit. Anybody else feel this way or has felt this way? Will this feeling go away the more I cold approach?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NobodyCares1

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dadmonson said:
I feel like a bum asking for 5 dollars to support my drug habit. Anybody else feel this way or has felt this way? Will this feeling go away the more I cold approach?
I do feel a bit nervous when doing cold approach but I never feel like that. I just want to chat and meet new people that's all, nothing wrong or weird about that and that's the mindset you should have. You don't approach her because you want or even worse need something from her, you do it for fun, you do it to show her a good time, you're the giver not her.
 

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Think this says more about what you feel your self worth is than the cold approach. You don't feel like you are good enough to get these women, hence you probably don't.
 

dadmonson

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NobodyCares1 said:
I do feel a bit nervous when doing cold approach but I never feel like that. I just want to chat and meet new people that's all, nothing wrong or weird about that and that's the mindset you should have. You don't approach her because you want or even worse need something from her, you do it for fun, you do it to show her a good time, you're the giver not her.
You got it. This is the mindset you need to have.

marmel75 said:
Think this says more about what you feel your self worth is than the cold approach. You don't feel like you are good enough to get these women, hence you probably don't.
I guess I don't really feel the way I describe in my original post. It is just that they treat me that way. It's like the girls don't want to be bothered. They always seem like they are pressing for time and try to distance themselves from me.
 

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in cold approch you have to be social person , and have a good look , unsocial guys usually fail to start a conversation without being weird
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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