"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Everytime I Do A Cold Approach...
- Thread starter dadmonson
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
NobodyCares1
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I do feel a bit nervous when doing cold approach but I never feel like that. I just want to chat and meet new people that's all, nothing wrong or weird about that and that's the mindset you should have. You don't approach her because you want or even worse need something from her, you do it for fun, you do it to show her a good time, you're the giver not her.dadmonson said:
You got it. This is the mindset you need to have.NobodyCares1 said:
I guess I don't really feel the way I describe in my original post. It is just that they treat me that way. It's like the girls don't want to be bothered. They always seem like they are pressing for time and try to distance themselves from me.marmel75 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.