Every time I meet a girl theyre always hooked on some other guy

[Ringleader41]

Do yall even deal with this or not

 

[Brighty]

A little competition never hurt anybody, what exactly do you mean by "hooked on"?

 

[Ringleader41]

My princess is already in another castle the minute I meet her. Apparently theyre machines lol

 

[Brighty]

You're being way too vague. Are they already dating someone else or what?

 

[Ringleader41]

They arent, but theyre already hooking up with another guy or other guys when I meet them.

 

[Brighty]

They arent, but theyre already hooking up with another guy or other guys when I meet them.

Uh, so what?

 

[floydb25]

Very common. I think it also depends on who youre going after. Some girls are into relationships: others arent. Typically the hot / flashy / revealing ones arent. Theyre always jumping around, and seem to be hooked on another guy every week. Just the way it works. Youre probably going after the single-minded, always taken, in-demand, player-types. Their value is high because theyre always dating or hooked on someone, so everyone wants them all to themselves. Too bad it doesnt work, as they know their value, and exploit it fully. They are never not with, trying to get, or thinking about another guy. And another. And another. Even if they hook up with you - its usually not for long.

For these types, you definitely play the numbers, put no expectations in, dont take rejection personally (even if theyre rude, stuck up, have high standards, etc), dont take them seriously, and all of that stuff.

Youre going to run into this a lot if youre into the single gig yourself. Just gotta keep chugging along, and accept that its the nature of the game.

 

[Ringleader41]

Very common. I think it also depends on who youre going after. Some girls are into relationships: others arent. Typically the hot / flashy / revealing ones arent. Theyre always jumping around, and seem to be hooked on another guy every week. Just the way it works. Youre probably going after the single-minded, always taken, in-demand, player-types. Their value is high because theyre always dating or hooked on someone, so everyone wants them all to themselves. Too bad it doesnt work, as they know their value, and exploit it fully. They are never not with, trying to get, or thinking about another guy. And another. And another. Even if they hook up with you - its usually not for long.

For these types, you definitely play the numbers, put no expectations in, dont take rejection personally (even if theyre rude, stuck up, have high standards, etc), dont take them seriously, and all of that stuff.

Youre going to run into this a lot if youre into the single gig yourself. Just gotta keep chugging along, and accept that its the nature of the game.

Ya so its my dumb luck playing against me

 

[Brighty]

Very common. I think it also depends on who youre going after. Some girls are into relationships: others arent. Typically the hot / flashy / revealing ones arent. Theyre always jumping around, and seem to be hooked on another guy every week. Just the way it works. Youre probably going after the single-minded, always taken, in-demand, player-types. Their value is high because theyre always dating or hooked on someone, so everyone wants them all to themselves. Too bad it doesnt work, as they know their value, and exploit it fully. They are never not with, trying to get, or thinking about another guy. And another. And another. Even if they hook up with you - its usually not for long.

For these types, you definitely play the numbers, put no expectations in, dont take rejection personally (even if theyre rude, stuck up, have high standards, etc), dont take them seriously, and all of that stuff.

Youre going to run into this a lot if youre into the single gig yourself. Just gotta keep chugging along, and accept that its the nature of the game.

Solid advice, and if this is that type of girl then I hope OP takes it to heart, but at the same time who's to say that she's that specific kind of girl?

What if she's just a normal single girl in college acting like a normal college kid is prone to do? It doesn't sound like she's going around whoring it up, it just sounds like she's with this one guy just to hook up. Contrary to what a lot of people might say otherwise on this board, there's nothing wrong with that.

All I really have to go off of here is that she's hooking up with another guy and that she's not dating anyone. She's not dating anyone. I'm going to assume you're in college or something, and hooking up with someone is completely different than dating. Stop telling yourself you have dumb luck, nothing's even happened yet. Go for it man, give it a shot. If you like this girl you owe it to yourself. What's holding you back?

 

[Ringleader41]

Solid advice, and if this is that type of girl then I hope OP takes it to heart, but at the same time who's to say that she's that specific kind of girl?

What if she's just a normal single girl in college acting like a normal college kid is prone to do? It doesn't sound like she's going around whoring it up, it just sounds like she's with this one guy just to hook up. Contrary to what a lot of people might say otherwise on this board, there's nothing wrong with that.

All I really have to go off of here is that she's hooking up with another guy and that she's not dating anyone. She's not dating anyone. I'm going to assume you're in college or something, and hooking up with someone is completely different than dating. Stop telling yourself you have dumb luck, nothing's even happened yet. Go for it man, give it a shot. If you like this girl you owe it to yourself. What's holding you back?

The problem is I can get a ONS with them but when I try to get more I cant because of that one guy.

 

[Brighter]

The problem is I can get a ONS with them but when I try to get more I cant because of that one guy.

I hit the post limit on my main account (how long has there been a limit to only 10 posts a day?), but I want to do my part to help out here before I leave for work. But you have to be more specific man, we can't help you if you're being so tight-lipped and vague about the details behind all this. Everyone's been through the **** at some point, we can all relate to this kind of stuff, we've all been there.

You want to get more as in a relationship with this girl? What does that one guy have to do with anything? Win her over man.

 

[Ringleader41]

I dont really want a relationship. I want a f-buddy. Ill just use a recent example. Hooked up with girl twice, she seemed like she was a potential camdidate. Wrong because apparently theres like a guy or other giys above me. I see all my friends getting f-buddies and they dont act smooth at all and plus im better looking than them.

 

[Brighter]

I dont really want a relationship. I want a f-buddy. Ill just use a recent example. Hooked up with girl twice, she seemed like she was a potential camdidate. Wrong because apparently theres like a guy or other giys above me. I see all my friends getting f-buddies and they dont act smooth at all and plus im better looking than them.

Eh. Fvckbuddies are like communism - great in theory, **** in practice. They always get too complicated and someone almost inevitably ends up getting feelings for the other that the other doesn't return.

If you're really deadset on it, go for it. Maybe you're just too upfront and blunt with the girls about it. Are you sure they're actually fvckbuddies just like you are or are they leading the girl on? I'll admit, I've been guilty of that once or twice.

If a girl had to choose between Guy A who says he wants to be fvckbuddies and Guy B who could turn into something more - she's going to go with Guy B. She doesn't want any stigma of being a ***** in any way, so she's going to go with the guy who she feels may end up turning into a relationship down the road. Just hide the fact under the guise that you're dating, then she'll be guilt free.

Word of advice - it's eventually going to get complicated, and that's inevitable. If you want to try and make it last as long as you can - never make a habit of falling asleep after sex with each other.

 

[Ringleader41]

Id take a relationship but if i go for relationship wont i fail. Its impossible for me to get one lol .

 

[Brighter]

Id take a relationship but if i go for relationship wont i fail. Its impossible for me to get one lol .

You can get a one night stand and hook up with some of these girls, not every guy can do that. You're already halfway there if you can get them to like you enough that they sleep with you - from there its showing your interest in them - genuine interest, not "I'm pretending to care about your cat so you'll fvck me tonight" interest - and spending time getting to know them.

 

[Ringleader41]

Youre right! Everytime I try to get with them afterwards it fails or I just have that vibe. I made a previous topic about the previous girl I nexted.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197796