chancer
Senior Don Juan
Ever ask a girl if she's seeing any other guys after dating for for a while?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ever ask a girl if she's seeing any other guys?
- Thread starter chancer
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No.
What i asked last time i wanted to go exclusive with a girl was:
Me: "Do you want me to be exclusive with you, only dating you?"
Her: "Of course i want, what do you think? Of course i'm not, i'm with you!! Are you dating other girls, or thinking off??"
smooth
What i asked last time i wanted to go exclusive with a girl was:
Me: "Do you want me to be exclusive with you, only dating you?"
Her: "Of course i want, what do you think? Of course i'm not, i'm with you!! Are you dating other girls, or thinking off??"
smooth
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Only say that to girls you want to get into the friend-zone with ... Otherwise, only say something that would direct her to being exclusive with you specifically.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why would you? Ohhhhh, it's an AFC thing... Got'cha...Originally posted by chancer
Ever ask a girl if she's seeing any other guys after dating for for a while?
TheNonPedant
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nope
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sybertiger
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Naw, you should know if you listen to her. Asking her directly is a really weak move, and in general, if she likes you, the answer is no.
chancer
Senior Don Juan
not that i'm thinking about asking, or like anyone any great deal. Just poped in my head from overhearing my cousin talk to her friend...