Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.Originally posted by Derek Flint
Not to mention, there's a million guys out there doing that routine after reading "The Game"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i'm not sure what this is, can you explain?Originally posted by syncmaster
Do the evolution phase shift routine.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Originally posted by syncmaster
and i do entire groups and cause them to "all think the same thing"
Keep in mind, the book hit # 1 on Amazon.com, so it sold alot of copies, not to mention, Strauss mentioned in the book that the routines were getting stale as women in every big city were hearing the same stuff over and over.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.
Hell, I'm in school, have a pretty chill course load (compared to some people) and still had to wait until Thanksgiving break to actually take some time and read the book, which I was curious about.
Do you think girls who work or study have time to read this book, unrelated to most of the stuff they already have to do, let alone linger and think about the "jealous girlfriend opener" or "cold readings?
Just a thought.
And in a year or so, those routines will be "played out" and it'll be time to learn new one's.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
............this is why i love mystery's lounge with our seceret routines.
Love,
Smooth
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.Originally posted by syncmaster
You people ask for routines then flame when you get them. What the fvck do you want?
I use routines - does that make me a newbie? Mystery uses routines, so does style and TD... are they all newbies?Originally posted by Derek Flint
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.
But too many guys end up with routine depency and it keeps them from progressive.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.