Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.Originally posted by Derek Flint
Not to mention, there's a million guys out there doing that routine after reading "The Game"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i'm not sure what this is, can you explain?Originally posted by syncmaster
Do the evolution phase shift routine.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Originally posted by syncmaster
and i do entire groups and cause them to "all think the same thing"
Keep in mind, the book hit # 1 on Amazon.com, so it sold alot of copies, not to mention, Strauss mentioned in the book that the routines were getting stale as women in every big city were hearing the same stuff over and over.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.
Hell, I'm in school, have a pretty chill course load (compared to some people) and still had to wait until Thanksgiving break to actually take some time and read the book, which I was curious about.
Do you think girls who work or study have time to read this book, unrelated to most of the stuff they already have to do, let alone linger and think about the "jealous girlfriend opener" or "cold readings?
Just a thought.
And in a year or so, those routines will be "played out" and it'll be time to learn new one's.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
............this is why i love mystery's lounge with our seceret routines.
Love,
Smooth
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.Originally posted by syncmaster
You people ask for routines then flame when you get them. What the fvck do you want?
I use routines - does that make me a newbie? Mystery uses routines, so does style and TD... are they all newbies?Originally posted by Derek Flint
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.
But too many guys end up with routine depency and it keeps them from progressive.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.