You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.Originally posted by Derek Flint
Not to mention, there's a million guys out there doing that routine after reading "The Game"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i'm not sure what this is, can you explain?Originally posted by syncmaster
Do the evolution phase shift routine.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by syncmaster
and i do entire groups and cause them to "all think the same thing"
Keep in mind, the book hit # 1 on Amazon.com, so it sold alot of copies, not to mention, Strauss mentioned in the book that the routines were getting stale as women in every big city were hearing the same stuff over and over.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.
Hell, I'm in school, have a pretty chill course load (compared to some people) and still had to wait until Thanksgiving break to actually take some time and read the book, which I was curious about.
Do you think girls who work or study have time to read this book, unrelated to most of the stuff they already have to do, let alone linger and think about the "jealous girlfriend opener" or "cold readings?
Just a thought.
And in a year or so, those routines will be "played out" and it'll be time to learn new one's.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
............this is why i love mystery's lounge with our seceret routines.
Love,
Smooth
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.Originally posted by syncmaster
You people ask for routines then flame when you get them. What the fvck do you want?
I use routines - does that make me a newbie? Mystery uses routines, so does style and TD... are they all newbies?Originally posted by Derek Flint
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.
But too many guys end up with routine depency and it keeps them from progressive.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.