You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.Originally posted by Derek Flint
Not to mention, there's a million guys out there doing that routine after reading "The Game"
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
i'm not sure what this is, can you explain?Originally posted by syncmaster
Do the evolution phase shift routine.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by syncmaster
and i do entire groups and cause them to "all think the same thing"
Keep in mind, the book hit # 1 on Amazon.com, so it sold alot of copies, not to mention, Strauss mentioned in the book that the routines were getting stale as women in every big city were hearing the same stuff over and over.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Don't overestimate the nomber of people who actually go out of their way to read Strauss' book.
Hell, I'm in school, have a pretty chill course load (compared to some people) and still had to wait until Thanksgiving break to actually take some time and read the book, which I was curious about.
Do you think girls who work or study have time to read this book, unrelated to most of the stuff they already have to do, let alone linger and think about the "jealous girlfriend opener" or "cold readings?
Just a thought.
And in a year or so, those routines will be "played out" and it'll be time to learn new one's.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
............this is why i love mystery's lounge with our seceret routines.
Love,
Smooth
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.Originally posted by syncmaster
You people ask for routines then flame when you get them. What the fvck do you want?
I use routines - does that make me a newbie? Mystery uses routines, so does style and TD... are they all newbies?Originally posted by Derek Flint
Routines are fine for newbies, much like training wheels.
But too many guys end up with routine depency and it keeps them from progressive.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.