Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Sooo I'll start by teasing her by text, but I honestly don't know what to say to her which is why I fail most of the times. I have a very serious face on all the time and I look innocent but I do sometimes get overly serious. How do I lighten up the mood to counter-act that?MainDroite said:You need to appeal to some other sense of hers before. Sort of like a key to her mind. Only then, when she trusts you're not just a ****er looking to get into her pants (which you are, but for the sake of seduction, let's try to hide that fact), will you be able to make her "playfully" chase you.
Shy people actually open up surprisingly easily through text. You might want to try that, too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She's doing the same degree as me, I know her from university.MainDroite said:Well, first off, where do you know her from?
That's a pretty boring attitude man, someone fun and playful wouldn't go about things like that would they? :rock:TheJazz said:Mate, if you like fun & playful and she's introverted, she's not for you. Move on.
Haha good to know there needs to be more people like us in the world.TheJazz said:That's just me. I'm tons of fun. I'm all about the tickling and playing and whatnot. However when someone's gloomy and brings the mood down, I walk away and find someone or something else that's fun. Must I let their crumby mood/mindset ruin mine? I think not. Lately I've been into WEEDING OUT people and things that have no value to me. It seems to be working wonders. Hoorah.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.