I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Sooo I'll start by teasing her by text, but I honestly don't know what to say to her which is why I fail most of the times. I have a very serious face on all the time and I look innocent but I do sometimes get overly serious. How do I lighten up the mood to counter-act that?MainDroite said:You need to appeal to some other sense of hers before. Sort of like a key to her mind. Only then, when she trusts you're not just a ****er looking to get into her pants (which you are, but for the sake of seduction, let's try to hide that fact), will you be able to make her "playfully" chase you.
Shy people actually open up surprisingly easily through text. You might want to try that, too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She's doing the same degree as me, I know her from university.MainDroite said:Well, first off, where do you know her from?
That's a pretty boring attitude man, someone fun and playful wouldn't go about things like that would they? :rock:TheJazz said:Mate, if you like fun & playful and she's introverted, she's not for you. Move on.
Haha good to know there needs to be more people like us in the world.TheJazz said:That's just me. I'm tons of fun. I'm all about the tickling and playing and whatnot. However when someone's gloomy and brings the mood down, I walk away and find someone or something else that's fun. Must I let their crumby mood/mindset ruin mine? I think not. Lately I've been into WEEDING OUT people and things that have no value to me. It seems to be working wonders. Hoorah.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.