Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sooo I'll start by teasing her by text, but I honestly don't know what to say to her which is why I fail most of the times. I have a very serious face on all the time and I look innocent but I do sometimes get overly serious. How do I lighten up the mood to counter-act that?MainDroite said:You need to appeal to some other sense of hers before. Sort of like a key to her mind. Only then, when she trusts you're not just a ****er looking to get into her pants (which you are, but for the sake of seduction, let's try to hide that fact), will you be able to make her "playfully" chase you.
Shy people actually open up surprisingly easily through text. You might want to try that, too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She's doing the same degree as me, I know her from university.MainDroite said:Well, first off, where do you know her from?
That's a pretty boring attitude man, someone fun and playful wouldn't go about things like that would they? :rock:TheJazz said:Mate, if you like fun & playful and she's introverted, she's not for you. Move on.
Haha good to know there needs to be more people like us in the world.TheJazz said:That's just me. I'm tons of fun. I'm all about the tickling and playing and whatnot. However when someone's gloomy and brings the mood down, I walk away and find someone or something else that's fun. Must I let their crumby mood/mindset ruin mine? I think not. Lately I've been into WEEDING OUT people and things that have no value to me. It seems to be working wonders. Hoorah.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.