Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Sooo I'll start by teasing her by text, but I honestly don't know what to say to her which is why I fail most of the times. I have a very serious face on all the time and I look innocent but I do sometimes get overly serious. How do I lighten up the mood to counter-act that?MainDroite said:You need to appeal to some other sense of hers before. Sort of like a key to her mind. Only then, when she trusts you're not just a ****er looking to get into her pants (which you are, but for the sake of seduction, let's try to hide that fact), will you be able to make her "playfully" chase you.
Shy people actually open up surprisingly easily through text. You might want to try that, too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She's doing the same degree as me, I know her from university.MainDroite said:Well, first off, where do you know her from?
That's a pretty boring attitude man, someone fun and playful wouldn't go about things like that would they? :rock:TheJazz said:Mate, if you like fun & playful and she's introverted, she's not for you. Move on.
Haha good to know there needs to be more people like us in the world.TheJazz said:That's just me. I'm tons of fun. I'm all about the tickling and playing and whatnot. However when someone's gloomy and brings the mood down, I walk away and find someone or something else that's fun. Must I let their crumby mood/mindset ruin mine? I think not. Lately I've been into WEEDING OUT people and things that have no value to me. It seems to be working wonders. Hoorah.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.