"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Employers are posting fake jobs so as to neg-hit their employees

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BaronOfHair

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I have been noticing a lot of similarities in the job & mating markets.

Quote the article:

"Key findings:

40% of companies posted a fake job listing this year
3 in 10 companies currently have active fake listings
Alleviating employee workload concerns and suggesting company growth top reasons behind fake job posting strategy
Hiring managers say fake job postings led to boosted revenue, morale, and productivity
7 in 10 hiring managers believe posting fake jobs is morally acceptable"

Similarly, while none of us can control what women (Or anyone else)thinks about us, we do have a great deal of influence over their perceptions. As Chappelle and many more observers have noted
, our contemporary* obsession with "keeping it real" has a nasty way of exploding in our faces


*Actually, the rot's been festering for awhile. That skit is over 20 years old, as of this writing
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
If I were still slinging code, I would let recruiters present me, but if I were asked to fill out some form, I'd say, "eh, not interested, but you're welcome to do it for me".
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
Local ones. I have 3-4 companies that I have spent time with and gone in and interviewed with and built relationships with their firms so they have me on their list of candidates when jobs come in as long as it fits my skills and salary range.

Some of them have events, etc they sponsor and I have gone to these over the years and talked with the various people there, both th recruiters and other software engineers. It's been a pretty good networking experience.

Take time to build relationships...they still are valuable, maybe more now than ever since fewer and fewer people are going that route.
 
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