"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Employers are posting fake jobs so as to neg-hit their employees

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BaronOfHair

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I have been noticing a lot of similarities in the job & mating markets.

Quote the article:

"Key findings:

40% of companies posted a fake job listing this year
3 in 10 companies currently have active fake listings
Alleviating employee workload concerns and suggesting company growth top reasons behind fake job posting strategy
Hiring managers say fake job postings led to boosted revenue, morale, and productivity
7 in 10 hiring managers believe posting fake jobs is morally acceptable"

Similarly, while none of us can control what women (Or anyone else)thinks about us, we do have a great deal of influence over their perceptions. As Chappelle and many more observers have noted
, our contemporary* obsession with "keeping it real" has a nasty way of exploding in our faces


*Actually, the rot's been festering for awhile. That skit is over 20 years old, as of this writing
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
If I were still slinging code, I would let recruiters present me, but if I were asked to fill out some form, I'd say, "eh, not interested, but you're welcome to do it for me".
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
Local ones. I have 3-4 companies that I have spent time with and gone in and interviewed with and built relationships with their firms so they have me on their list of candidates when jobs come in as long as it fits my skills and salary range.

Some of them have events, etc they sponsor and I have gone to these over the years and talked with the various people there, both th recruiters and other software engineers. It's been a pretty good networking experience.

Take time to build relationships...they still are valuable, maybe more now than ever since fewer and fewer people are going that route.
 
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