"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Employers are posting fake jobs so as to neg-hit their employees

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BaronOfHair

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I have been noticing a lot of similarities in the job & mating markets.

Quote the article:

"Key findings:

40% of companies posted a fake job listing this year
3 in 10 companies currently have active fake listings
Alleviating employee workload concerns and suggesting company growth top reasons behind fake job posting strategy
Hiring managers say fake job postings led to boosted revenue, morale, and productivity
7 in 10 hiring managers believe posting fake jobs is morally acceptable"

Similarly, while none of us can control what women (Or anyone else)thinks about us, we do have a great deal of influence over their perceptions. As Chappelle and many more observers have noted
, our contemporary* obsession with "keeping it real" has a nasty way of exploding in our faces


*Actually, the rot's been festering for awhile. That skit is over 20 years old, as of this writing
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
If I were still slinging code, I would let recruiters present me, but if I were asked to fill out some form, I'd say, "eh, not interested, but you're welcome to do it for me".
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
Local ones. I have 3-4 companies that I have spent time with and gone in and interviewed with and built relationships with their firms so they have me on their list of candidates when jobs come in as long as it fits my skills and salary range.

Some of them have events, etc they sponsor and I have gone to these over the years and talked with the various people there, both th recruiters and other software engineers. It's been a pretty good networking experience.

Take time to build relationships...they still are valuable, maybe more now than ever since fewer and fewer people are going that route.
 
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