"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Employers are posting fake jobs so as to neg-hit their employees

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BaronOfHair

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I have been noticing a lot of similarities in the job & mating markets.

Quote the article:

"Key findings:

40% of companies posted a fake job listing this year
3 in 10 companies currently have active fake listings
Alleviating employee workload concerns and suggesting company growth top reasons behind fake job posting strategy
Hiring managers say fake job postings led to boosted revenue, morale, and productivity
7 in 10 hiring managers believe posting fake jobs is morally acceptable"

Similarly, while none of us can control what women (Or anyone else)thinks about us, we do have a great deal of influence over their perceptions. As Chappelle and many more observers have noted
, our contemporary* obsession with "keeping it real" has a nasty way of exploding in our faces


*Actually, the rot's been festering for awhile. That skit is over 20 years old, as of this writing
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
If I were still slinging code, I would let recruiters present me, but if I were asked to fill out some form, I'd say, "eh, not interested, but you're welcome to do it for me".
 

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LMAO...maybe this works in some industries but it likely backfires in others.

I usually have IT recruiters each out to me about job openings and positions so those are definitely not fake.
I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think I've asked you this before but which recruiters do you use? My experience with IT recruiters has been absymal.
Local ones. I have 3-4 companies that I have spent time with and gone in and interviewed with and built relationships with their firms so they have me on their list of candidates when jobs come in as long as it fits my skills and salary range.

Some of them have events, etc they sponsor and I have gone to these over the years and talked with the various people there, both th recruiters and other software engineers. It's been a pretty good networking experience.

Take time to build relationships...they still are valuable, maybe more now than ever since fewer and fewer people are going that route.
 
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