"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Emotional Healing is vital

Pandora

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Being unconscious is not healing dysfunctional behavior. Most relationship issues stem from being unconscious. Most people have emotional traumas that they do not address. The average person has not even began doing the internal work to be emotionally healthy. This is what " inner game" that was talked about in PUA circles really means.

Ever since I have done massive emotional healing I have learned how to talk to the feminine. You get triggered less and are able to talk to them almost like you would talk to your small daughter. You lead with love and calmness. You can also connect with them emotionally.

The trick is finding a chick that is also willing to go on the journey of healing her traumas. I asked a girl the other day " why were you out in streets when you were younger?" She basically said she was going on autopilot. She was not conscious. She was not even thinking about her behavior. Most people do not think about the root causes of their behavior.

Two emotionally healthy people can have a long lasting relationship and marriage.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I agree that healing and working on this is very important. Alot of the issues with my wife and I stem from my emotional immaturity and her childhood trauma
 

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I agree that healing and working on this is very important. Alot of the issues with my wife and I stem from my emotional immaturity and her childhood trauma
Yes exactly! Same thing in my relationship. My emotional immaturity made me over react to toxic things she would do. I was stuck in this alpha maintain frame nonsense. A man should be balanced. I also had to work on my insecurties.

Her childhood trauma made her hyper emotional, and insecure toxic. Its much different now due to each party actually doing the deep work.
 

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Yep, the first step is to reflect and understand the root causes of your emotional issues/traumas in life and then you can begin unraveling them. Usually happens naturally once you Decide to change, and have a great understanding of what occured.
 
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