"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Emotional Healing is vital

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Being unconscious is not healing dysfunctional behavior. Most relationship issues stem from being unconscious. Most people have emotional traumas that they do not address. The average person has not even began doing the internal work to be emotionally healthy. This is what " inner game" that was talked about in PUA circles really means.

Ever since I have done massive emotional healing I have learned how to talk to the feminine. You get triggered less and are able to talk to them almost like you would talk to your small daughter. You lead with love and calmness. You can also connect with them emotionally.

The trick is finding a chick that is also willing to go on the journey of healing her traumas. I asked a girl the other day " why were you out in streets when you were younger?" She basically said she was going on autopilot. She was not conscious. She was not even thinking about her behavior. Most people do not think about the root causes of their behavior.

Two emotionally healthy people can have a long lasting relationship and marriage.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree that healing and working on this is very important. Alot of the issues with my wife and I stem from my emotional immaturity and her childhood trauma
 
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Ricky said:
I agree that healing and working on this is very important. Alot of the issues with my wife and I stem from my emotional immaturity and her childhood trauma
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Yes exactly! Same thing in my relationship. My emotional immaturity made me over react to toxic things she would do. I was stuck in this alpha maintain frame nonsense. A man should be balanced. I also had to work on my insecurties.

Her childhood trauma made her hyper emotional, and insecure toxic. Its much different now due to each party actually doing the deep work.
 
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Yep, the first step is to reflect and understand the root causes of your emotional issues/traumas in life and then you can begin unraveling them. Usually happens naturally once you Decide to change, and have a great understanding of what occured.
 
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