"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Earring Question

Hockey Playa

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I have been debating on and off for well over a year whether or no to get an earring. First i wanted the one at the top of the ear, thought it would be more subtle. Than i saw some people with it , and now i dont like it. All i really want is a subtle little gold loop, i one ear.
Questions: 1.which is ear is the gay one i always forget!
2.How long before you can take it out? i heard you had to leave it in for 6 months before u can take it out ! is this true? i want it to be easily removable, like if i had a job interview or something!


any advice would be appreciatied thanks!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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if you get earrings... get both done.

i have 6 earrings... one on my "gay ear" right lobe... and three on my left lobe... and two on my left cartilage.

its a real convo starter for some reason too... maybe because i have more earrings than some girls.

ummm all earrings are easily removable. it takes about two weeks to fully heal if you keep it clean. and about 6-12 weeks i think for the cartilage to heal.

i got my first piercing at a walmart... then i pierced the rest myself.

the cartilage can be VERY nasty if you don't keep it clean.

if youre planning on getting a job anytime soon, don't do your cartilage.

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btw this belongs in anything else...
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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if you get "hoops"... get the small silver ones with pressure balls or w/e its called... you can find those types at stores like hot topic. theyre a bit more expensive then the CZ ones at claires.

the pressure ball ones are usually going to gauge your ear to a 16 or 18... which is plenty enough... i'd say gauge your ears just a TINY bit... stretch only... not from a hallow piercing needle that cuts a small circle into your lobe.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Axcell

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I wouldn't get an earing if I were you, it doesn't suit many guys. Get one, no cartilage on your left ear if you are so interested in getting one. Otherwise, I wouldn't get one, far more other places you can improve on.. girls aren't always checking the bling bling on your ear.
 

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Only get an eerring if it looks good on you. Pierce both if it fits your style and again looks good on you.

I only have my left ear pierced and wear a small black diamond earring but personally I'd look too girly with both ears pierced. That means it wouldnt look good on me thus I wouldn't pierce both.

but if you're gonna pierce only one, yeah left ear is supposed to be straight and right is gay :p
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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