"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Earring Question

Hockey Playa

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I have been debating on and off for well over a year whether or no to get an earring. First i wanted the one at the top of the ear, thought it would be more subtle. Than i saw some people with it , and now i dont like it. All i really want is a subtle little gold loop, i one ear.
Questions: 1.which is ear is the gay one i always forget!
2.How long before you can take it out? i heard you had to leave it in for 6 months before u can take it out ! is this true? i want it to be easily removable, like if i had a job interview or something!


any advice would be appreciatied thanks!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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if you get earrings... get both done.

i have 6 earrings... one on my "gay ear" right lobe... and three on my left lobe... and two on my left cartilage.

its a real convo starter for some reason too... maybe because i have more earrings than some girls.

ummm all earrings are easily removable. it takes about two weeks to fully heal if you keep it clean. and about 6-12 weeks i think for the cartilage to heal.

i got my first piercing at a walmart... then i pierced the rest myself.

the cartilage can be VERY nasty if you don't keep it clean.

if youre planning on getting a job anytime soon, don't do your cartilage.

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btw this belongs in anything else...
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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if you get "hoops"... get the small silver ones with pressure balls or w/e its called... you can find those types at stores like hot topic. theyre a bit more expensive then the CZ ones at claires.

the pressure ball ones are usually going to gauge your ear to a 16 or 18... which is plenty enough... i'd say gauge your ears just a TINY bit... stretch only... not from a hallow piercing needle that cuts a small circle into your lobe.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Axcell

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I wouldn't get an earing if I were you, it doesn't suit many guys. Get one, no cartilage on your left ear if you are so interested in getting one. Otherwise, I wouldn't get one, far more other places you can improve on.. girls aren't always checking the bling bling on your ear.
 

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Only get an eerring if it looks good on you. Pierce both if it fits your style and again looks good on you.

I only have my left ear pierced and wear a small black diamond earring but personally I'd look too girly with both ears pierced. That means it wouldnt look good on me thus I wouldn't pierce both.

but if you're gonna pierce only one, yeah left ear is supposed to be straight and right is gay :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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