"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This, I try to not care anymore about Occident or about traditional living. It makes me bounce between anger and sadness, like dustmuffin says. But I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. So we better enjoy our lives and **** b¡tches, because there is nothing worth fighting for.
Women are not worth fighting for. They don't know what they want. They like the validation that's it. Good rule...if you are dumped divorced...walk away and don't look back.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Been thinking about the sex I had with my date the other night. Best I have had in a while. She was like a circus monkey. Did anything I wanted and rode me like a worn out mule. Do you think she was trying to prove something? She was spent afterwards.
 

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Texted date this morning....trying to lure women to my house with candy. Which do you prefer skittles or m&ms? No reply yet. Don't expect to get one till after she gets off work. She answered my call. The last time that way. Need to get in the idgaf mindset. I will get busy at work and forget about it. Still thinking about x a bit. It dosent bother me much but need to stop it. I am a little nervous. Going to doctor today might get meds changed. Boy finally is being sworn in to national guard today.

If this girl wants to **** and run that's fine. I will go into monk mode and work in myself. I definitely need it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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And what are you reading?
I have a long list...rational male, no more Mr nice guy, DJ bible, bone cracker, stuff on texting and pick up. I also read red pill, married red pill. Just anything that will help. There is so much info I am in overload.
 

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Well she fu cks me like an animal and no reply to my text. I will wait a few days and call. It's frustrating but oh well.
 

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Bro, don't worry about her. You smashed her... now let her come to you. This is the time that you need to be bagging other chicks because you should have some confidence after smashing the last chick. Let her chase you playa.
 

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Bro, don't worry about her. You smashed her... now let her come to you. This is the time that you need to be bagging other chicks because you should have some confidence after smashing the last chick. Let her chase you playa.
So just ignore till she initiates? My confidence is up and down. Smashing didn't do much for it. Made the mistake of answering ex's email question about boys. That shot it down a bit. I will ignore her until she contcts
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Put her on timeout for a the next 5 days. Only talk to her if she calls or texts first.

I don't see anything wrong with talking to the ex about your boys. What's so wrong with that.
 

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Put her on timeout for a the next 5 days. Only talk to her if she calls or texts first.

I don't see anything wrong with talking to the ex about your boys. What's so wrong with that.
It fuc ked with my mind. I got emotional. It was her boys. ex gf not ex wife
 

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If you don't have any kids with her then you need to block her my dude. Best way to get over someone is to just block them playa. Trust me. I've done it more then once.
 

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If you don't have any kids with her then you need to block her my dude. Best way to get over someone is to just block them playa. Trust me. I've done it more then once.
I only have 2 boys with the same woman. Not having more.
 

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Ex texted wished me merry Christmas...
Um uh huh....ex wife was over. I have no patience for that b itch. Its fun to tell her just get to the point. She jsbbers constantly. My mom gets on my nerves too.

Got text from new girl. She said she is out of town visiting relatives for holidays. Asked her out for new years...said she didnt know because she is out of town....hmmm waiting for better offer....didnt reply yet. May not....suggestions?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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