"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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This, I try to not care anymore about Occident or about traditional living. It makes me bounce between anger and sadness, like dustmuffin says. But I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. So we better enjoy our lives and **** b¡tches, because there is nothing worth fighting for.
Women are not worth fighting for. They don't know what they want. They like the validation that's it. Good rule...if you are dumped divorced...walk away and don't look back.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Been thinking about the sex I had with my date the other night. Best I have had in a while. She was like a circus monkey. Did anything I wanted and rode me like a worn out mule. Do you think she was trying to prove something? She was spent afterwards.
 

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Texted date this morning....trying to lure women to my house with candy. Which do you prefer skittles or m&ms? No reply yet. Don't expect to get one till after she gets off work. She answered my call. The last time that way. Need to get in the idgaf mindset. I will get busy at work and forget about it. Still thinking about x a bit. It dosent bother me much but need to stop it. I am a little nervous. Going to doctor today might get meds changed. Boy finally is being sworn in to national guard today.

If this girl wants to **** and run that's fine. I will go into monk mode and work in myself. I definitely need it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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And what are you reading?
I have a long list...rational male, no more Mr nice guy, DJ bible, bone cracker, stuff on texting and pick up. I also read red pill, married red pill. Just anything that will help. There is so much info I am in overload.
 

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Well she fu cks me like an animal and no reply to my text. I will wait a few days and call. It's frustrating but oh well.
 

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Bro, don't worry about her. You smashed her... now let her come to you. This is the time that you need to be bagging other chicks because you should have some confidence after smashing the last chick. Let her chase you playa.
 

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Bro, don't worry about her. You smashed her... now let her come to you. This is the time that you need to be bagging other chicks because you should have some confidence after smashing the last chick. Let her chase you playa.
So just ignore till she initiates? My confidence is up and down. Smashing didn't do much for it. Made the mistake of answering ex's email question about boys. That shot it down a bit. I will ignore her until she contcts
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Put her on timeout for a the next 5 days. Only talk to her if she calls or texts first.

I don't see anything wrong with talking to the ex about your boys. What's so wrong with that.
 

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Put her on timeout for a the next 5 days. Only talk to her if she calls or texts first.

I don't see anything wrong with talking to the ex about your boys. What's so wrong with that.
It fuc ked with my mind. I got emotional. It was her boys. ex gf not ex wife
 

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If you don't have any kids with her then you need to block her my dude. Best way to get over someone is to just block them playa. Trust me. I've done it more then once.
 

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If you don't have any kids with her then you need to block her my dude. Best way to get over someone is to just block them playa. Trust me. I've done it more then once.
I only have 2 boys with the same woman. Not having more.
 

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Ex texted wished me merry Christmas...
Um uh huh....ex wife was over. I have no patience for that b itch. Its fun to tell her just get to the point. She jsbbers constantly. My mom gets on my nerves too.

Got text from new girl. She said she is out of town visiting relatives for holidays. Asked her out for new years...said she didnt know because she is out of town....hmmm waiting for better offer....didnt reply yet. May not....suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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