Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I am still nervous. Might be my thyroid medicine. Anway counter girl was flirting with me hard. I see her almost every day.she I'd in early 20s and just broke up with her bf. Her nick name is boobs. I call her that to her face and she just laughs. She told me about sex books she wss reading. Her bf was abusive. Idc i just want to **** her and have fun. Anyway i knew i would screw up the close with my mental state. I was doing good just to hang flirting. I will see her and ask if she went back to bf. No ..hey give me your number. Lets have some fun. It is odd that I can go from feeling great to crappy. Went to therapist and she suggested i change to a male councilor. Going to do that. She wanted me to communicate like a woman. Boy graduates Saturday and will be home for good. He is already talking workout schedule with me. He will live with me for a while and cramp my style. Idk its great to have home home.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just a little tip, purely theory for me, as we both know lately I'm in a slump, but see what you think:

Don't address the bf situation, just go straight for the number/pull...make the reality you & her & no-one else.
If she comes back with "im back with my bf" then fine...but you shouldn't be the one to bring it up
 

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Maybe start an habit of drinking rooibos after lunch and dinner to fight nervousness? Also, it's great that you can share time with your son.
I am a non drinker. I have had a few ibeprofins before dates. I used to be calm. My breakup screwed that up. The breakup as a whole is positive. I will be a better person because of it. Yes my boy has been away to long. It did him good though. Military school will change you for the better.
 

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Just a little tip, purely theory for me, as we both know lately I'm in a slump, but see what you think:

Don't address the bf situation, just go straight for the number/pull...make the reality you & her & no-one else.
If she comes back with "im back with my bf" then fine...but you shouldn't be the one to bring it up
Good idea I will try that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Rooibos is a tea to calm yourself, helps against anxiety and the like. I drink it after dinner to relax a little, but used to drink it after lunch when I had to study a lot and was nervous.
Thanks for the tip I will try it.
 

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OK girl at 711 bought me a hotdog. I flirted with her asked her if she was taking me to dinner. I didn't want her number but had fun with her.
 

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Still a little nervous. Set up date for next Tuesday and she is already talking sex. Should be fun. Gonna call women I met at wine tasting and set up date for Sunday. I nexted the tatooed Amazon. I just wasn't feeling it with her and nexted the youngster. I have a meet up at a retro bar tomorrow night. Then meet up Christmas party Monday. I think I hired a cleaning lady. She is a custodian at work. I think I should be able to pull more ladies at the meet ups. Still have a case of the nerves though but still chatting it up with folks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You mentioned your son went to Military school? Westpoint or the Air force/navy academies?
 

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Thinking about ex and how women are Myers in general. Need to get over anger. I wish I knew this DJ stuff earlier in life.

Side note date on Monday is booking a room at the Hyatt. 200 bucks...looks like I will pound it. I'm not paying for it she is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where did you meet her at? Been out with her before?

Good stuff. Knock her down.
 

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Where did you meet her at? Been out with her before?

Good stuff. Knock her down.
No meet her online just phone and text. She works as a health caregiver for some wealthy people 24 hours a day except for one or two days off a week. She isn't comfortable coming to my house and lives with her elderly parents. With all of the hours seems like she earns quite a bit and no time to spend it. She is hourly. We are to meet for dinner first. She already has some red flags but I just want to ****.
 

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Can't wait to feel that feel. Must be amazing.
No I really don't give a s hit. My give a shi tter is off now most of the time. When she mentioned the hotel I thought to myself I'm not paying for that. I have changed my attitude. I will f uck anywhere IDC.
 
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Update on the hotel date have been texting her. She wants me to bring massage oil, lube and a dildo..she wont be going home for the weekend. Also silk ties and a blindfold. Oh and another ed flag she wants me to go to a bull riding event in Jan with her parents.....no ty

I also set up a date for sunday at a bar with a woman I meet on meet-ups. I called her and set it up.
 

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Update on the hotel date have been texting her. She wants me to bring massage oil, lube and a dildo..she wont be going home for the weekend. Also silk ties and a blindfold. Oh and another ed flag she wants me to go to a bull riding event in Jan with her parents.....no ty

I also set up a date for sunday at a bar with a woman I meet on meet-ups. I called her and set it up.
****ing awesome man keep killing it
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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