"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Drinkin - good or bad?
- Thread starter Ratman
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jonny football hero
Master Don Juan
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Getting Sloppy = making an a$$ of yourself and getting you're a$$ kicked if you fight.
Then again, I get sloppy every weekend.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
You should make your own choices. Just like with everything about a guy girls will vary in their preferences.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
1) I'm definately not the only one drinking (i.e. party scenario)
2) Other people are already drunk and they start to piss me off with their prattle. Generally gets me calm enough to see their points of view and chill out.
On the whole...Yes, drinking is good. Yes, alcoholism is bad. Moderation is key, people.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Either way, it's your choice.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
If you're the only one around getting hammered, and rationalize it with "Well, I want to drink," you're going to look like an alcoholic. Drinking is a social thing, and something that actually takes a little practice with before you become a "good" drunk. Ignore that last sentance if you actually enjoy stumbling down stairs and puking your brains out each night.
Obviously you dont need to drink because someone slurrs off "duuude, yous gots'ta take thish shhot wiff me" and you don't want to. It's common sense (or "moderation").
Do it when you want to, but not by yourself.
Glimpseone
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
triple_ultima
Senior Don Juan
I laughed at this. It sounds like something from an after-school special. Good words to live by though.Originally posted by Glimpseone
Pass on the alcohol, not the sexual fortitude.