"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't spend your money just because you have it.

DiegoSantori

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Don't spend your money just because you have it. That's stupid. If you trade time for money, your money shouldn't be for consumable frivolities. It's not for designer clothes, or iPhones, or a Mustang GT. Unnecessary excess on depreciating assets is a poor business decision.

If you are wondering what to do with it you SHOULD SAVE IT AND INVEST IT until you have a clear answer.

Would you rather have a nicer car "because you can afford it" or a cheaper car, keeping your cards close, and 8/10 of that money you would have spent in investments? I know what I would rather have.

Money is your best bet to earn more money. Until you're meeting needs at such a high volume that money is available in excess, the little bit you do have, whether it comes from a job or a lucky break from somewhere, should only be spent one way. Buy something to meet the needs of others. Spend your money in a way that causes it to be multiplied rather than consumed.

If you pick up a dollar, and your first question is "What can this buy me?" rather than "Can this buy something worth $1.50, $2.00, or $5.00 to someone else?", you're thinking about money the wrong way, my friend.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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speed dawg

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You are also MUCH less vulnerable to robbery if you aren't flaunting unnecessary, expensive 'stuff', whether that's a car, watch, clothes, etc. I've never understood people's fascination with buying the most expensive stuff possible.
 

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I have specific ways I deal with my money. What I make on my paycheck generally goes toward bills. Anything extra I get from side jobs and such goes into a savings account. Tips from my job go into my kid's bank account which occasionally gets withdrawn and taken to my investor. All my pocket change and medical reimbursements get saved for Christmas time. The credit card is a bridge between payday, the savings account, and online shopping. The savings account is for large costing items, home renos, or emergencies.

All in all, I think I balance my money fairly well. It's a system that works well, and guarantees that I have money going into all the places I need it to.
 

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The best use of money is to buy something you'll truly appreciate for the time and hard work put into getting it. Whatever that may be.

I'm the type of guy who would definitely buy a nicer car if I could afford it, but I just fvcking love driving a good car.
 
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