She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Due to the education bubble, women mistake the career, particularly something with air conditioning and virtually useless (given thedegree choice). I got friends who are blue collar workers. They make bank yet women are entitled as ****kkk. Women prefer white collar over blue collar. Prefer higher education not less.I am curious what thoughts might be relating to type of job?
You being "up front" means they know there is no future with you so once they have had their fill they move on to someone they can have a future with. In short, to most women you are a waste of their time.I do well for myself. I make six figures and that allows me to live comfortably in 3,000 sq ft home I had built a year ago. I’ve scored some hotties but they always seem to be single moms. In fact, I don’t recall sleeping with a non-mom off the top of my head. I’m also a dad, 50/50, 3 kids, but I keep that life separate from dating.
At the end of the day, I make good money, gym everyday for last 5 years, but another thread peaked my interest.
I’m a mechanic for a dealership. I have been for 20 years now. I sometimes wonder that if being in this trade limits the quality of woman I seem to attract or does it matter? Median income where I live is $58,000/yr. I also own a shop that I personally make about another 20-30k/yr very part time.
I clean up well and have been told I’m attractive by many women but I wonder if the dirt ball side of my life deters the single no kids pre wall with steady job/life balance kind of girl?
I’m very Red Pill and up front with each single mom I date - keep kids out of here, fun and bang, vasectomy, will never marry - on average lasting up to 3 months per lady (or ladies was last year’s gig). They figure out quick that there’s no providing coming from me and can’t be changed so rotate around they go.
I am curious what thoughts might be relating to type of job?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
First off, if you're a single daddy, there is no stigma with dating a single mommy.I do well for myself. I make six figures and that allows me to live comfortably in 3,000 sq ft home I had built a year ago. I’ve scored some hotties but they always seem to be single moms. In fact, I don’t recall sleeping with a non-mom off the top of my head. I’m also a dad, 50/50, 3 kids, but I keep that life separate from dating.
At the end of the day, I make good money, gym everyday for last 5 years, but another thread peaked my interest.
I’m a mechanic for a dealership. I have been for 20 years now. I sometimes wonder that if being in this trade limits the quality of woman I seem to attract or does it matter? Median income where I live is $58,000/yr. I also own a shop that I personally make about another 20-30k/yr very part time.
I clean up well and have been told I’m attractive by many women but I wonder if the dirt ball side of my life deters the single no kids pre wall with steady job/life balance kind of girl?
I’m very Red Pill and up front with each single mom I date - keep kids out of here, fun and bang, vasectomy, will never marry - on average lasting up to 3 months per lady (or ladies was last year’s gig). They figure out quick that there’s no providing coming from me and can’t be changed so rotate around they go.
I am curious what thoughts might be relating to type of job?
I guess chubby chasers could label themselves that as well.I tell women that I am an elephant breeder. They usually forget about asking what I do for a living after that. Have fun with these chicks brother!
I think it was a deliberate ploy to keep white collar employees from unionizing - i.e., why would you want to join a union? you're a *professional*.Agreed.
Off topic, I will just add that the term “working class” irks me.
1. White collar people aren’t considered working class.
2. Does this imply that white collar people don’t work lol?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is an interesting perspective. I am upfront as to not lead them on to any preconceived ideas that with enough good secs and good looks will ever lead to a contractual agreement that disadvantages myself in every way known as marriage. In addition, cohabitation stakes the same claim. Both leave my children and myself vulnerable and that is something I cannot do.You being "up front" means they know there is no future with you so once they have had their fill they move on to someone they can have a future with. In short, to most women you are a waste of their time.
What initially works to attract women doesn't work to maintain the relationship after a certain point in time. For you, that appears to be about 3 months.