Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
HA-HA!!! Sounds like a challenge!!!! :crackup:MacAvoy said:Sounds like fun however I have a funny feeling that this will be a lot easier than playing Where's Waldo.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HA-HA!!! Sounds like a challenge!!!! :crackup:MacAvoy said:Sounds like fun however I have a funny feeling that this will be a lot easier than playing Where's Waldo.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damn....you were still have a crush on this woman?My Name is Nobody said:I'm back. And I'm over it. She did me a favor. Time for newer and better things. Out with the old and in with the new.
And the new is hot as hell.
Latinoman said:Damn....you were still have a crush on this woman?
Latinoman said:Damn....you were still have a crush on this woman?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Beta?oldschooler said:No contact doesn't work by dropping off the raidar.
It works by you putting your self out there as much as possible so your not with her BUT she still hears about you.
im currently writing about this in my revised how to be mysterious thread that will be re-posted in beta =].
You've tossed her number, you don't even see her at work, and you're finally almost over her. Why in hell would you want to get back on good terms with her? Do you realize what could happen if you did? Don't tell me that you need some type of 12-step program to deal with this!My Name is Somebody said:...My last question is there ANY way for me and this woman to be on decent terms again? I just want to be on decent terms. That's it...
Any ideas?
Francisco d'Anconia said:You've tossed her number, you don't even see her at work, and you're finally almost over her. Why in hell would you want to get back on good terms with her? Do you realize what could happen if you did? Don't tell me that you need some type of 12-step program to deal with this!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.