Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I do work out and eat healthy , even play soccer weekly , but with 10 hours sitting (8 work + 2 commute ) it is hard to make up that easilyThere are steroids like Tren that helps cut weight....lol that is not the route I'd suggest tho. If you want to lose weight you are just going to have to put it in the hard work- it's never too late. I was 225 at the start of June (I had a bit of a gut). I am now down to 206. Just started working out 5 days a week, walking for 2 hours every sat and sun and changing my eating habits a bit. I eliminated nothing but minimized how much I would have and frequency - ie I would have ice cream only once a week. As long as your active you can generally enjoy the same things because you'll burn them off.
I feel you bro. In most of my corporate jobs same **** happened to me, a lot of sitting most of the time. You gotta try working it into your schedule - wake up an 1 hr or 2 early and work outI do work out and eat healthy , even play soccer weekly , but with 10 hours sitting (8 work + 2 commute ) it is hard to make up that easily
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.